Tomorrow is a bit of a big day for me. I move into the next decade and, I think I am feeling pretty good about it actually. I feel excited about the future; the plans I have for my business, the ideas I have about what I want to do to our house to update and improve it and, of course, looking forward to watching my girls continue to grow up, blossom and flourish.
There is much to be grateful for in the world. So often, we allow ourselves to get caught up in the past. What has happened to us, what has hurt us, what we believe has stopped us from being the person we want to be. Our history and our experiences do shape us, but they don’t have to define us. It is possible to learn to let go of what has been, and to recognise that (in the words of Brene Brown) “if we own our story, we get to write the ending”.
A favourite exercise of mine that I often give to my clients is to write about your ‘best possible self’ (see Sonja Lyubomirsky). The idea is to spend some time thinking about your best possible self; imagine yourself in the future, after everything has gone as well as it possibly could. You have worked hard and succeeded at accomplishing your goals, dreams and your own best potential. Write it in a journal. Write it as if it has actually happened already (i.e. write as if it is 2026, not 2016). The value of an exercise such as this is not only the positive feelings you will experience as a result of doing it, but writing it down helps you think about what you really want and how you will feel as a result. You can check back on it as often as you like, and tweak and adapt it as time goes on. It’s a wonderful way to learn about yourself, your values and what you want out of your life.
So give it try and let me know how you get on. Choose to be who you want to be, and to achieve all that you dream of. Embrace the opportunities that life presents. Allow yourself to feel excited about what is possible. Moving into the next decade is prompting me to look back on the last one, and look ahead to the next. If I could tell myself 10 years ago that I’d be where I am today, I’d be delighted. I wonder where I will be in another 10? I’m off to write about it….
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