Coming out of the storm
WHAT HAVE YOU LEARNED?
“Once the storm is over you won’t remember how you made it through, how you managed to survive. You won’t even be sure, in fact, whether the storm is really over. But one thing is certain. When you come out of the storm you won’t be the same person who walked in. That’s what this storm’s all about.” (Matt Haig – Reasons to Stay Alive)
What have you learned about yourself over the last few months? When we are faced with a stressful, unpredictable and uncontrollable situation we have no choice but to put our heads down and face into the storm. We often realise that we are stronger than we thought and discover new aspects of ourselves that might not have emerged otherwise.
A great way to examine what you have learnt or what has shifted for you is to try some self-reflective writing. Journalling is something I often encourage my clients to do as part of their coaching programme. Wild writing is a short, timed exercise where you put pen to paper for five minutes and just allow the words to pour out onto the page. Don’t stop to check your spelling or your grammar, just set the timer, start writing and don’t stop until the timer goes off. Once you have finished your writing, take a moment to read over what you have written and highlight or underline a sentence that stands out for you.
When I did this exercise, I noticed how much I have learned about the importance of certain people in my life and just how much I appreciate them. Since getting our puppy I have discovered just how much I enjoy a quiet early morning walk on my own to contemplate the day ahead. Some mindful quiet thinking time for me at the start of the day has been wonderfully calming and created some space for me to reflect in a way that I haven’t before. As a naturally extroverted person I don’t tend to crave quiet time, but I have needed it so much more during lock down – probably due to the intensity of us all living in the same four walls day in and day out – and I have learned how important it is for my own wellbeing to create this space for myself.
Give it a go and let me know how you get on? For those of you with older children, try asking them to have a go too and see what they discover.